Become a non-smoker, instead.
Step One: Watch for the Will to Do It
All the good reasons that every one gives smokers to quit smoking are true in one sense and bogus in another sense. Sure, thing! You will smell better, taste flavors again, have less housework to do, not give your friends and family cancer from second hand smoke, and breathe better. All those benefits are true, but none of them is reason enough for a hard-core (I smoked three packs a day) smoker. We need something to break the wall of resistance that we have built over the years.
I don't know what your wall-breaking reason will be except that it will be different from my reason. What I do know is that you won't gain the will to do it by borrowing other people's reasons. You need your own wall-busting reason. Here is a trick for you: Stop turning down reasons. While you are a smoker without the will to become a non-smoker, let all those little reasons build up in you. Then, when a strong reason presents itself, you will have the accumulated weight of all the other reasons to help you past the wall of resistance.
For decades I understood and disliked the mess of smoking. Ashtrays and piles of butts are unsightly and smelly. They can be positively stomach-turning disgusting. I never liked imposing my smoke on others, and I would not smoke in other people's homes or cars unless they were smokers. However, I did not like having to stand outside in snow or rain storms to have my fix. When my daughter was dying of cancer, and we knew that her cancer had nothing to do my smoking, I could not quit for her just because she asked me to. I had trouble breathing, and I would be winded just climbing a half-flight of stairs. I coughed incessantly, and from time to time broke a rib coughing. That hurt, a lot. My family members did not like it that I smoked, but their dislike of my smoking was just little reasons. All these things mattered to me, but none of them was enough to break down my wall of resistance. .
My wall-busting event occurred when I visited my son, his wife, and his young son. My daughter-in-law was newly pregnant with their next child and easily became nauseous. One day after I returned to their apartment from having a cigarette outside, I joined her and my grandson on the floor to play. My daughter-in-law looked at me with a stricken, hurt look, and then apologized, but told me she had to ask me to step away. The smoke-smell was overpowering her and she was about to be sick.
I became so uncomfortable with my smoking that, when I came home from that visit, I developed a "quit smoking" plan. I don't think it would have worked because to quit smoking is a negative action, and negative actions are not good life-changers. Read on for more about this.
My story continues with Step Two
I don't know what your wall-breaking reason will be except that it will be different from my reason. What I do know is that you won't gain the will to do it by borrowing other people's reasons. You need your own wall-busting reason. Here is a trick for you: Stop turning down reasons. While you are a smoker without the will to become a non-smoker, let all those little reasons build up in you. Then, when a strong reason presents itself, you will have the accumulated weight of all the other reasons to help you past the wall of resistance.
For decades I understood and disliked the mess of smoking. Ashtrays and piles of butts are unsightly and smelly. They can be positively stomach-turning disgusting. I never liked imposing my smoke on others, and I would not smoke in other people's homes or cars unless they were smokers. However, I did not like having to stand outside in snow or rain storms to have my fix. When my daughter was dying of cancer, and we knew that her cancer had nothing to do my smoking, I could not quit for her just because she asked me to. I had trouble breathing, and I would be winded just climbing a half-flight of stairs. I coughed incessantly, and from time to time broke a rib coughing. That hurt, a lot. My family members did not like it that I smoked, but their dislike of my smoking was just little reasons. All these things mattered to me, but none of them was enough to break down my wall of resistance. .
My wall-busting event occurred when I visited my son, his wife, and his young son. My daughter-in-law was newly pregnant with their next child and easily became nauseous. One day after I returned to their apartment from having a cigarette outside, I joined her and my grandson on the floor to play. My daughter-in-law looked at me with a stricken, hurt look, and then apologized, but told me she had to ask me to step away. The smoke-smell was overpowering her and she was about to be sick.
I became so uncomfortable with my smoking that, when I came home from that visit, I developed a "quit smoking" plan. I don't think it would have worked because to quit smoking is a negative action, and negative actions are not good life-changers. Read on for more about this.
My story continues with Step Two
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